It’s rare that my husband and I have the opportunity to watch an “adult” movie. (Not that kind of movie; get your mind out of the gutter.)
Like many parents, we can recite lines from Mary Poppins and Brave and Ice Age.
“Oh, George, you didn’t jump in the river. How sensible of you.”
“A princess does not put her weapons on the table.”
“Hey, why am I the poop-checker?”
One night we had an opportunity to watch a movie without our kids and we stumbled on Captain Fantastic. We both enjoyed the movie, and when it was over, Mike broached the subject of watching the movie with our daughters. If you haven’t seen the movie, it includes the following: bad language, suicide, grave robbing, theft, commentary on the dangers of religion and capitalism, and a full frontal naked shot of Viggo Mortensen.
“It’s just a penis. Every man has one.”
Don’t report us to the authorities just yet. We made it clear before we watched the movie that we would press pause and have a conversation anytime someone had a question. This opened up a lot of doors. Our children are not afraid to ask us anything, and they learn from us about many serious issues before getting misinformation on the school playground.
We’ve continued to lift the ban on movies with adult themes, violence, and bad language. We watch all sorts of movies with our kids now, making sure that we talk about those adult themes and the violence and bad language.
Not everything has to be an award-winning film leading into thoughtful conversation on the human condition. They’ve seen Back to the Future and Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and Tommy Boy and Die Hard. (Now are you ready to report us to the authorities?)
I’m thankful that we discovered Captain Fantastic and that it opened up these conversations with our kids. Family Movie Night takes on new meaning.
And really, it’s just a penis.